January 15, 2014 article by Kathy Bruflat Shrad in the Argus Leader see the article here
In South Dakota, 44,600 homes are broken, where there is a custodial and a noncustodial parent. There are a lot of facts and figures regarding why South Dakota is a “mom” state, and typically, the mom receives the custodial status and child support and tax benefits. But, one of the largest problems I see not addressed is the single mom and the revolving door of men who have more time with them than the actual father.
It is shameful. Women by nature want someone to take care of them, so if they are no longer in a relationship with the children’s father, they go elsewhere. This sad storyline is constantly played out in the media, women entrusting their children’s lives to virtual strangers they have romantically hooked up with, rather than time with the children’s own natural father, no matter how fit he is.
On numerous occasions, my husband’s children have been left with their mother’s boyfriend, or her best friend who happens to not be home — but her boyfriend is, or her sister, who has had numerous live-in boyfriends in the past five years. Basically, anyone other than their father.
Why? To me it’s obvious: The children are the prize, and time with them is the battle, and as custodial parent, they are her weapon.
It is hard to believe that in 44,600 homes, one parent is reduced to a babysitter and a paycheck.