Kids Need Both Parents by Roger Elgersma

Here is Roger Elgersma in The Argus Leader on January 10, 2014. Here is the article

When the divorce rate started to rise 50 years ago, the courts took the position that they would do what is in the best interest of the children. That sounds good and would have been a good goal, but the judges started kicking the dads out as if they were of a species that chase out all the other males so they can rule.

The good dads got kicked out faster than the bad dads, since they were seen by the mothers as a risk to get custody, as is shown in my university research in “Social Work,” January 1994.

So, now we have a generation who grew up seeing that the nice guy family man cannot be trusted to stay and the bad boys stay in the children’s lives. So this generation does not marry to the extent that 42 percent of our children are now born to single mothers.

This is a result of the courts teaching the children that good dads do not stay anyway. So, the girls look for dysfunctional men, and the boys see that is what works for them.

If the goal of the court was to do what is best for the children, this would not happen. But a judge’s first priority is control, and a dad who sees his kids get raised wrong does not appear in the eyes of the judge to totally respect a bad judge. So, the judges have eliminated their ability to judge divorce, since this generation does not marry in the first place.

We need to go back to a system where children have two parents. Automatic joint custody is necessary in divorce. The next generation needs to see men stay in the family.

Both parents need to think of this when they choose whom to marry.

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